It’s really, really shocking when you find out someone has said horribly untrue things about you behind your back.

First some background of the “players” here:

There’s “Assface” my co-worker of 2 years. She’s never come out to me as gay but has always been very cagey about the topic. When referring to exes she doesn’t use pronouns just “they”  and “them”.

Whatever, no prob with me, if you aren’t comfortable then that’s cool. For sure not my place to forcibly out anyone.  I just let things go as they would, figuring eventually as she got to know me she may see that I’m not the enemy. We’ve never been buddies but more than cordial co-workers I thought. She is a pathological liar though, about even insignificant things…

Now enter coworker’s 2 & 3. Turns out they are also both gay which I did not know until they told me today along with this lovely story….

Apparently when 2 was hired 3 months ago, Assface took her aside and told her not to mention anything about her girlfriend etc around me as I was not gay friendly and that I’d likely try and get her fired.

Then 3 (hired 3 wks ago) pipes up and says “yeah she told me the same thing”

What the actual fuck!?!

I was livid about this and they apologized for ever believing her.

I told them I for sure wasn’t mad at them, I mean you get hired at a new place and someone tells you that of course you’re going to take it to heart. They didn’t know me at all so I could have been this homophobic monster.

The good thing out of all of it is they both said they figured out just from talking to me about every day shit that I just did not seem to be this person they were “warned” about.

I’m glad they didn’t just dismiss me outright as a horrid person.

They said she also told them not to tell anyone on the vet hosp side of things either because there’s one gay girl there and no one likes her, she’s alone, no friends wah wah. Meanwhile she’s awesome, everyone laughs and jokes with her all the time…but again how is a new person working in a diff building to know this. I mean wow…

 

As to the motive of this whole bullshit…

well my assumption is that Assface had a huge crush on 2 and was trying to isolate her from being friends with anyone else. Like “it’s us against them, they don’t understand, are mean etc”

2 confirmed to me that Assface always flirted with her and made her feel very uncomfortable when they worked alone. When she finally told her nothing was going to happen between them, Assface began the mission to badmouth her and try to get her fired.

Sexual harassment much?

Really unbalanced, borderline personality shit.

So yeah told my boss and HR about this whole scene and, while they already were going to ask her to leave, this kinda sealed the deal I think. I just can’t work with someone like that, no way. It’s toxic

She’s getting spoken with tomorrow morning and as luck would have it I am working the early shift tomorrow morning so I will be at ground zero for the nuclear meltdown from this.

yay.

Just remember that when you say some asinine bullshit about someone, especially if it’s outright fucking lies, well that shit does tend to find it’s way back to the subject.

Still really angry about all this, I’ll get over it. I know in my heart (and hell you all must know too) that I’m not this person.

Part of me wants to beat the living shit outta her, at least confront her with her bullshit, but she’s so twisted I am positive it will be saved in her head as that I hate,/am angry with her,  cos she’s gay.

Yep, that’s how I am.

Love all y’all regardless.

Gonna go drown my sorrows in some spicy ass Pho.

Night night 🙂

ugh first off sorry for turning this thing into a cancer blog, not cool.

Next update I’m hoping will be a SDCC wrap up with pics etc cos seriously Arbey, lighten up. sheesh!

 

Ok anyway here we go:

Third (and final biopsy) showed no cancer at all so yay!

Major reconstruction surgery begins next Monday along with removal of some lymph nodes to make sure it has not traveled to blood stream.

If nodes are clear no chemo, if not then chemo.

Reconstruction will be 3 surgeries over 12 weeks and pretty disfigured looking for a while 🙁

He’s really bummed about that because they go out to eat like every night and he’s pretty sure he’s not gonna want to go into the world looking like this.  And he’s told he can’t bandage it…

This is what they are planning to do:

(Be warned the pics on this are pretty graphic so don’t click if you are bothered by that stuff)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nasal_reconstruction_using_a_paramedian_forehead_flap

Anyhow overall much better news today than it was looking like. Now the last scary thing is lymph results and then healing from reconstruction.

Thanks for continuing kind words and thoughts guys 🙂

Going through some stuff with my stepdad’s health.

Before I go into that let me just address the “stepdad” thing. I call him that, not to distance our relationship. He’s been my father figure since I was 3 (that’s 36 yrs for those counting)

The use of the term is more that “dad” has negative associations for me. But that’s a story for another time.

Back to the health stuff now. About 2 weeks ago he had a small biopsy on his nose that the dermatologist was concerned by. It’s an aggressive malignant melanoma and they needed to go back in and get a much larger biopsy since the initial one was cancer cells throughout. In other words no margins at all.

So today he had the bigger biopsy and it was much more aggressive. They took a sample about the size of a nickel. If you think that’s not big, hold a nickel up to the side of your nose near the nostrils and see how much was taken. It’s a good size 🙁

The results are on the 15th. From there we find out if they got wide enough margins, what the grade is and next steps.

Regardless of the results at least 2 more surgeries will be needed under anesthesia this time to clean up the site and then begin reconstruction.

Worst case, take an even bigger sample, test lymph nodes then likely chemo and/or radiation.

The plastic surgeon who took today’s biopsy seemed positive that it wouldn’t be the super negative result but I’m not sure if that’s just bedside manner and not being negative until needed or if it’s legit. Anyway stepdad was in good spirits when I talked to him later on. Worried of course, who wouldn’t be, but seemed to be feeling positive about things even joking about the hole in his nose.

So, as the title of this post says…now we wait. Nothing else you can do.

 

 

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